We all do it–set our annual goals. Lose weight, eat healthier, write a book, spend more time with loved ones, be a better wife, take that professional certification class… The list is endless, and the practice is rooted in a natural desire to better ourselves, and to “make progress”.
On the flip side, it is also rooted in an inherent sense of lack, and a fear that we are not “good enough” in certain aspects of our lives. We all struggle with internal messages that cause us to set goals for all the wrong reasons. Uncovering those messages and their drivers can be cathartic and can ultimately break through negative patterns, opening the door for new, positive patterns to emerge.
How successfully our goals are achieved depends in large part upon how relevant and meaningful they are to our true self. This is a key factor when working to “make improvements” in our lives. For maximum achievement, our goals must be in alignment with our core person, expressed through our personal vision. When this alignment happens there is little resistance that cannot be overcome and doors seem to magically open to create the path to success.
So, the first step in this process is to get under the hood of our magnificent self, and begin to understand what motivates us in the first place. There are many methods to do so, but for starters here are a few questions to ask yourself:
- What is the most important relationship in your life right now?
- What do you value above all else?
- Close your eyes, breathe deeply, imagine your future.
- What are you doing? What is important? Who is with you?
- in 2 yrs?
- 5 yrs?
- 10 yrs?
- What could you NOT do without?
- What could you do without?
- What are your special talents and strengths?
- Who do you want to serve and how?
Once you have compiled a fair amount of data about yourself, the next step is to create a personal vision. This vision encompasses your whole life, because leadership isn’t just about career success, it’s about being focused, aware, and fulfilled in all aspects of life. True leadership requires this laser-beam awareness of who you are and what you have to offer the world. So, your personal mission has three parts: Who you are, what you do with who you are, and how you do it.
Complete the following statement: “I am a ________________________________________________ who __________________________________________________ by _________________________________.”
Get to the root of who you really are by focusing on these questions and other readings and classes. This insight can guide every moment of your life. Every goal, if in alignment with this vision, offers a series of decisions. Each decision is an opportunity to align with your vision, your true self. If your goal centers around healthier eating because your personal vision includes some aspect of health – each meal you plan becomes an opportunity to validate that vision. The choice becomes obvious between your long-term vision and instant gratification.
Once you have a clear understanding of your personal vision, setting goals is less daunting and something that most of us have done. There are a multitude of tools to set goals. SMART goals are a popular method. Whatever method you choose to articulate your goals, the most meaningful ones are those that are in alignment with your vision.
So… What are your dreams? How did you lose sight of that plan that was going to get you to the next level? What derails our best intentions? How do we get on track to reach our goals? Health, career, finances, life… This is the topic for our first session of WOMENTUM! (A series of group coaching sessions for women who want to be better leaders in life and career) Get under what’s stopping you so you can bring out the true leader within.. Join us!